Accept, Don’t Resist, Your Negativity
When you read the title, you may have had a double take, “A mental coach is telling me to accept my negativity? How can that be?” I realize that my statement is counterintuitive but let me show you why accepting your negativity is actually the best thing to do whenever anything unhelpful enters your mind. […]
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Dr. Andrew Huberman Podcast on the Science of Mental Training
If you’re not convinced of the value of mental training as a powerful tool to improve performance in sports and other achievement areas, I encourage you to listen to this podcast by Dr. Andrew Huberman that explores the science behind mental training. If you’re unfamiliar with Dr. Huberman, he’s a noted neuroscientist and a member […]
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Eight Ps for Positive (That’s the First P) Life Change
Positive life change is just plain hard. If anyone tells you otherwise, they are probably trying to sell you something. But positive life change is possible and decidedly worth the effort. What could be more meaningful, rewarding, and downright joyful than letting go of past liabilities and limitations and becoming the best version of yourself, […]
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What Reality are You Living in?
It sure is difficult knowing what’s real these days. We have virtual reality, fake news, ChatGPT, deep fakes, the list goes on. What was once obvious and unambiguous to all is now unclear and up for debate by all. This challenge of which apparent reality is actually the reality that we should let guide our […]
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Open Your Arms (Literally) to Life
We humans have a powerful and immediate reaction when we perceive a physical threat to our lives; we raise and cross our arms in front of our bodies (imagine someone throwing something at us, even if it’s a pillow). The goal of this instinctive reaction is to protect us from a threat to our lives […]
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What Fuels Your Life?
At the very core of your life is the “fuel” that powers you forward in your career, avocations, relationships, and everything else that is listed under the category of Life. This fuel is formulated from the values, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions, and emotions that you hold and experience in every aspect of your life. Due to […]
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Two Paths to Positive Life Change: Take Both!
In my last article, I described the seven forces that make positive life change so difficult. In this article, I will explore how you can overcome those forces and propel yourself toward the person you want to be and the life you want to lead. Positive life change is the Holy Grail for many people. […]
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Do You Protect or Express Yourself in Life?
We humans are very good at protecting ourselves from perceived threats. This reaction is the manifestation of our most powerful instinct—survival—which has developed over billions of years of evolution. This protective reaction has served us well for most of our existence (which began on the Serengeti about 250,000 years ago) when confronted with threats to […]
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What are Your Emotional Hot Buttons That “Light You Up?”
Have you ever had your hot buttons pushed? If you’re a human being and experience emotions at all, you have with almost absolute certainty. Your heart starts pounding, your breathing shortens, adrenaline courses through your veins, you begin to sweat, you feel very strong emotions (usually fear or anger), you feel a strong compulsion to […]
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Has Your Psychological Castle Become an Emotional Prison?
Our survival instinct developed to protect ourselves from harm and to ensure our survival. This fundamental drive has been wired into our DNA through evolution since we climbed out of the primordial muck more than 530 billion years ago. And it has worked pretty darned well for most of human existence. Unfortunately, times have changed […]
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