{"id":15977,"date":"2022-01-05T08:00:42","date_gmt":"2022-01-05T16:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.drjimtaylor.com\/4.0\/?p=15977"},"modified":"2025-06-20T06:50:28","modified_gmt":"2025-06-20T06:50:28","slug":"let-go-of-fear-of-failure-in-triathlon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.drjimtaylor.com\/4.0\/let-go-of-fear-of-failure-in-triathlon\/","title":{"rendered":"Let Go of Fear of Failure in Triathlon-#5"},"content":{"rendered":"

In the fourth<\/a> in my nine-part series exploring obstacles that are blocking your path to your triathlon goals, I introduced you to fear of failure, what I believe is the single greatest barrier to success in our sport. In today\u2019s article, I will show you how to let go of your fear of failure.<\/p>\n

Let me preface my thoughts by saying that there are entire books devoted to fear of failure and how to overcome it. Also, in severe cases, psychotherapy is required. As with most things in life, there are no magic pills or quick fixes. At the same time, if you have a fear of failure, there are some things you can do to ease or relieve the burden of fear of failure and begin to pursue success rather than avoid failure.<\/p>\n

Change Your Perspective on Failure<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Poc\"For you to begin the process of letting go of your fear of failure, you must recognize that failure is an inevitable\u2014and essential\u2014part of triathlon (and life). It shows you what you did wrong so you can correct the problem in the future. Failure connects your actions with consequences which help you gain ownership of your efforts. Failure teaches you important life skills, such as commitment, patience, perseverance, determination, resilience, and problem solving. It helps you respond positively to the frustration and disappointment that you will often experience as you pursue your goals. Failure also teaches you humility and appreciation for the opportunities that you\u2019re given as a triathlete.<\/p>\n

Of course, too much failure will discourage you. It will cause you to question your abilities and your goals. It will hurt your motivation and your confidence. Too much failure can create stress and anxiety and cause you to focus too much on the results you\u2019re not getting. As a consequence, you also need to experience success for its ability to bolster motivation, build confidence, reinforce hard work, and increase enjoyment. As you pursue your triathlon goals, you must experience a healthy balance of success and failure to gain the most from your efforts.<\/p>\n

Reality Test Your Perceptions<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear of failure is about the perceptions that you hold about failure and the dire consequences that you believe will occur if you fail. But those perceptions are most likely are entirely disconnected from the reality of your life. You may perceive that bad things will happen if you fail, but, in all likelihood, nothing particularly bad, aside from some disappointment, will result from a failure.<\/p>\n

For example, the main causes of fear of failure include disappointing others, being perceived by others as a failure, and having to conclude that all of your efforts have been a waste of time. Yet, I\u2019m going to argue that none of these things will happen. You can challenge these perceptions by asking your family and\"\" friends if they will be disappointed in you (or, as a result, love you less), You can recognize all of the wonderful experiences and important life lessons you will have learned that will benefit you in your life. So, I encourage you to reality test those perceptions and find out if your fears will come true (I\u2019m pretty sure they won\u2019t).<\/p>\n

Get Support from Others<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear of failure is a difficult obstacle to overcome on your own, so enlist family, friends, coaches, and teammates to help you get over the top. Have them encourage you when you get discouraged, challenge your thinking when you go to the dark side, provide levity when things get heavy for you, and give you hope when you don\u2019t see any. With many people behind you, you will feel more confident, stronger, and better prepared to face your fears and pursue your triathlon goals.<\/p>\n

Be Cautiously Optimistic<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"ICAN\"]If you have a fear of failure, I don\u2019t think I can get you to be overwhelmingly optimistic (\u201cEverything will turn out great!\u201d), at least not right away. But if you can be cautiously optimistic (\u201cGood things could happen.\u201d), you\u2019ve taken a big step in the right direction. Being cautiously optimistic involves seeing a small ray of hope when you would otherwise see gloom and doom. It means acknowledging that bad things could happen while, at the same time, also recognizing the many good things are more likely to happen. Cautious optimism means giving yourself a small chance of being successful which opens the door to more hope, confidence, and even more optimism with every opportunity you give yourself.<\/p>\n

Take Risks<\/strong><\/p>\n

The very nature of triathlon is that you cannot perform your best without taking risks. You won\u2019t find real success unless you put it on the line. The problem is that when you take risks, you may fail. But, if you don\u2019t take risks, you are guaranteed to not perform your best, which is the worst kind of failure.<\/p>\n

I encourage you to make a commitment to taking risks for two reasons. First, to show you that you will be okay if you do fail. Second, to show you that when you take risks, good things will often happen (though not always, of course). You should start small with your risk taking, for example, in training where the consequences of failure are minimal (e.g., try running intervals at a pace that is faster than what you think you can do), and slowly intensify your risk taking in increasingly more important races. In doing so, you\"\" get comfortable with taking risks, see that the downsides aren\u2019t so down, and the upsides are really up.<\/p>\n

Take Your Shot<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your most basic goal on race day is to simply take your shot, meaning give it everything you have. Taking your shot is inherently risky, but it is far better to take your shot and \u201cfail\u201d (in quotes because when you give your best effort, that is a success regardless of the what the results say) than to never take your shot at all (that\u2019s the real failure!). There\u2019s a quote from\u00a0 Michael Jordan poster that says something like, \u201cI\u2019ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I\u2019ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I\u2019ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I\u2019ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.\u201d All those misses didn\u2019t prevent him from continuing to take his shot and hitting far more buzzer beaters than he missed. And there is one simple fact here: If you don\u2019t take your shot, you guarantee that you will fail.<\/p>\n

\"\"The great thing about all of these steps to overcome fear of failure is that they build on each other. The more you challenge your fear of failure, the more you see that your fear is unfounded and unnecessary. And, as you do so, you will learn two important lessons. First, failure is fleeting, and you will long outlive it. Second, when you let go of your fear of failure, you will perform better and be more successful than ever.<\/p>\n

Your goal is to develop a new perspective on failure that takes away its fear. A healthier relationship with failure will free you to strive for success without reservation, take risks, and vigorously pursue their triathlon dreams. In time, you will come to know in your heart that some failure is not only okay, but also essential to your triathlon efforts, and in no way a negative judgment on your goals or a poor reflection on you as a triathlete or a person. In fact, your ability to persevere in the face of failure says far more about you than how you respond to success in our sport. If you can develop a healthy relationship with failure, you will be afforded a much better chance of success and satisfaction in your triathlon life.<\/p>\n

Do you want to take the next step in training your mind to perform your best in training and on race day? Here are four options for you:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n