{"id":15724,"date":"2021-04-26T09:26:22","date_gmt":"2021-04-26T16:26:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.drjimtaylor.com\/4.0\/?p=15724"},"modified":"2025-06-20T07:29:40","modified_gmt":"2025-06-20T07:29:40","slug":"do-you-experience-disappointment-or-devastation-after-a-subpar-triathlon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.drjimtaylor.com\/4.0\/do-you-experience-disappointment-or-devastation-after-a-subpar-triathlon\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Experience Disappointment or Devastation After a Subpar Triathlon?"},"content":{"rendered":"

It never feels good to have a bad race. You perform poorly and you naturally feel awful. It\u2019s normal to experience negative emotions in reaction to results that don\u2019t live up to your expectations. But what specific negative emotion you experience has a big influence on how that subpar performance affects you in the near term and in the future. I have found that triathletes can have one of two emotional reactions to unsatisfactory results: disappointment or devastation.<\/p>\n

Disappointment<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one likes to be disappointed. You feel sad and defeated. Your heart aches for the opportunity lost and the goal not achieved. Certainly, disappointment is not a pleasant emotion; it feels really bad, in fact. But that doesn’t mean it is a bad emotion to be avoided at all costs. To the contrary, disappointment is a healthy and beneficial emotion that plays an essential role in the pursuit of your triathlon goals.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Though we all know what disappointment feels like, as with many emotions, many of us don\u2019t really know what causes it. So, let\u2019s take a look. Disappointment is an emotional reaction to a failure of a situation<\/em>, specifically one in which you perform poorly or have an unexpected loss in competition. Disappointment occurs when you are unable to fulfill some hope, goal, or expectation. It involves feelings of thwarted desire and loss.<\/p>\n

In fact, disappointment is hard wired into us to help when we are confronted by failure. It actually girds your resolve and mobilizes your resources to do better in the future. What is your natural reaction to disappointment? If you\u2019re like most triathletes, after a brief period of discouragement, your disappointment morphs into determination and drive to overcome the situation that caused the disappointment and to prevent it from happening again.<\/p>\n

When you experience disappointment after a performance in which you did not do well, you should let yourself to feel the emotion fully, even if it doesn\u2019t feel good. In other words, let yourself feel bad rather than trying to placate, assuage, or distract yourself from the disappointment. Allowing yourself to feel the disappointment in all its power will then enable you to turn that emotional energy toward the future and to motivate you so you don\u2019t feel that disappointment again. Then, your new-found understanding of disappointment will also take some of the sting out of and make it easier to use it as a positive force in your triathlon efforts.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>After \u201cfalling off the horse\u201d with a poor result, you will naturally feel a brief period of letdown, but then you must pick yourself up and get back on the horse, er, your tri-bike, and get back to pursuing their triathlon goals with renewed determination and intensity. By putting the disappointment behind you and directing your focus to the present and the future, you can experience a better way of feeling in response to failure and find new ways to overcome your setbacks and return to your path toward your triathlon goals.<\/p>\n

Rather than the disappointment disheartening you and causing you to feel bad about yourself, you can use the experience to affirm your capabilities by showing yourself that you can conquer your failures and your disappointment. As difficult as it may seem, you want to view disappointment as training for future setbacks and failures. \u00a0You want to accept that failure and disappointment as an inevitable and unavoidable part of life and what matters is how you react to it.<\/p>\n

Devastation<\/strong><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, some triathletes will perceive poor performances not as disappointments that are experienced as relatively minor and temporary setbacks, but rather as devastating assaults on who they are and what they are capable of. This occurs because, unlike disappointment which is seen as a failure of a situation (in this case, a failure of a competition), devastation is experienced as a perceived failure of self<\/em>, meaning the failure is felt as a direct reflection on themselves as triathletes and people.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Devastation in response to a discouraging performance is experienced when triathletes are overly invested in our sport. In other words, how they perform in triathlons is too connected to their evaluation of their value as triathletes and their worth as people. Devastation is a truly harmful emotion that may not only hurts future triathlon performances but can damage self-esteem and interfere with life beyond the swim, bike, and run. It can also last for days, weeks, months, or even years after the unsatisfying performance (depending on how important the failure was, for example, a poor result at the Olympics could last for a long time).<\/p>\n

What makes devastation such a destructive emotion is the natural reaction that often follow. \u00a0This reaction, unlike disappointment, actually increases the likelihood of more failure and more devastation in the future. Devastation is, in fact, a general emotional state that is comprised of veritable plethora of awful emotions that can include pain, embarrassment, humiliation, shame, fear, grief, dejection, despair, jealousy, pity, bitterness, loneliness, and self-hate. Now that is one very depressing list of emotions!<\/p>\n

\"Poc\"<\/a>This tsunami of hurtful emotions doesn\u2019t just make triathletes feel really, really bad. It also does damage to their motivation and confidence\u2014they plummet\u2014and causes them to feel incompetent and inadequate as both triathletes and people. These reactions then have the effect of killing their passion for our sport\u2014devastation is the opposite of fun\u2014and their determination and drive to overcome the poor performance. These triathletes are hit so hard by a substandard performance that they just want to flee from the painful experience they are confronted with. They withdraw socially, mope around, look deflated, and feel sorry for themselves for far longer than they should. The problem with this type of reaction to failure is that you automatically lose, not just in terms of results, but, more importantly, in terms of your enjoyment of our sport, in other words, the reason why you do triathlons! Yes, poor performances and unsatisfying results can take the wind out of your sails, but it shouldn\u2019t be that painful.<\/p>\n

\"Dr.<\/a>Experiencing devastation should be a big red flag for you. It should tell you that you are excessively invested in your triathlon life. Moreover, you need to reduce your investment in our sport to a healthier level. Not an easy task, to be sure but it starts with putting triathlon in perspective in your life. Remember that triathlon should be an affirming part of your life, not life itself. In doing so, you will moderate your reactions to setbacks, mistakes, and failure from devastation to disappointment (more on how to do this in the last article of my Emotions in Triathlon series coming soon). As you make this shift, you will also be able to increase your resilience, motivation, and confidence. Finally, you will perform much better and once again be able to experience the passion, pride, inspiration, and joy which are the real payoff for doing triathlons.<\/p>\n

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