30 06, 2014

Is Compassion Children’s Most Admirable Quality?

By | June 30th, 2014|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |2 Comments

Think of all of the qualities that you admire most in others and that you would most like to instill in your children. My guess is that compassion is high on your list. Why is that? Perhaps because, like diamonds, compassion is a rare gem in a society in which selfishness and disregard for others are as common as rhinestones. Consider what compassion is. Most fundamentally, it is “not about me.” Compassion involves being aware of and caring about the needs of others. It means wanting to help others who are less fortunate than you. Compassion has so many other wonderful attributes associated with it, for example, benevolence, good will, unselfishness, and empathy, just to name a few. If these qualities were ingredients to be mixed and baked, you would have the recipe for about as fine a person as you could imagine.

13 06, 2014

A Father’s Day Gift

By | June 13th, 2014|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |0 Comments

This video should remind us all what's really important in our lives and how we should spend our time. Happy Father's Day!!

16 04, 2014

Great Article about Raising Good Kids

By | April 16th, 2014|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , |0 Comments

This article is a worthwhile read for any parent who wants to raise a kind and caring child (which, I assume, is every parent). One point I really like is to praise your children's character, rather than their behavior, when they behave kindly (e.g., "You shared because you are a caring person"), and "punish" children's behavior, [...]

24 03, 2014

Interesting Short Film on ‘Character’

By | March 24th, 2014|Categories: Psychology|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

Here's an interesting short film that explores the development of character in people.

3 03, 2014

Leader-as-Person: Who You Are is How You Lead

By | March 3rd, 2014|Categories: Business|Tags: , , , , , , , , |2 Comments

In my first post in this series on leadership in the corporate world, I introduced you to the notion that there are roles that leaders must fulfill to be successful: person, performer, team builder, decision maker, and change agent. This post will explore what I believe lies at the heart of leadership: leader-as-person, who you are is how you lead. As I alluded to in my first post, I take a contrarian view of leadership: I don’t believe in leadership styles. Despite the many books written about leadership styles, I would argue that we are not capable of leading in ways that conflict with who we are. In other words, we can’t be someone we are not. Certainly, it is possible to expand the range of your leadership capabilities around the anchor of who you are; a great leader is always looking for ways to improve their leadership skills. For example, if you are an intense and emotional leader, you can learn to moderate your emotional reactions during a crisis to some degree. At the same time, it’s not likely you will ever be a Zen-type leader. Within notion of leader-as-person, the key for you is to fully understand who you are and, given who you are, maximize your effectiveness as a leader. With this information, you can then identify the strengths and weaknesses you have as a leader and can work to build your strengths and mitigate your weaknesses, thus allowing who you are to emerge as a more effective leader.

25 11, 2013

How Do You Make a Major Life Decision?

By | November 25th, 2013|Categories: Personal Growth|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

I recently had dinner with a former client whom I had worked with about 15 years ago. Cassie (not her real name) was in her teens then and she is now a grown woman with a great career and about to be married. She asked for my guidance to help her make a major career [...]

20 09, 2013

Latest News: Your Children are Listening to be Translated into Russian

By | September 20th, 2013|Categories: Latest News|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

I'm pleased to announce that my third parenting book, Your Children are Listening: Nine Messages They Need to Hear From You, will be translated into Russian, following in the footsteps of translations into French and Korean.

26 11, 2012

Practical Ways to Teach Values to Your Children

By | November 26th, 2012|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , |0 Comments

Values are a pretty darned touchy subject to bring up these days when it comes to raising children. Values have gotten a bad rap because of how they are discussed in politics and as they relate to religious beliefs. When most people hear the term values used, they often think of the hot-button value issues [...]

19 11, 2012

Healthy Values Protect Your Kids from Media’s Unhealthy Messages

By | November 19th, 2012|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , |2 Comments

So what values will children growing up in the 21st century need to thrive? Perhaps surprisingly, my answer is the same values that have enabled children to thrive in previous generations: respect, responsibility, hard work, integrity, compassion, just to name a few. The increased presence of popular media in no way changes that calculus. To [...]

8 11, 2012

Media Teaches Bad Values to Your Children

By | November 8th, 2012|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

How powerful and toxic are the value messages that children are receiving from the media today? According to a large body of research, the answer is very potent and pervasive. Though I’m obviously making a judgment on what good and bad values are, I don’t think many parents would disagree with the values that I believe aren’t healthy for children. The research demonstrates that the values I’m going to describe actually hurt your children. Though there are many destructive values that you want to protect your children from adopting, I’m going to focus on the three that I believe are most influenced by the popular media, most harmful to children’s development, and that have research to support my stance. But don’t let my short list prevent you from identifying the unhealthy values that you see hurting your children and from taking steps to prevent your children from being exposed to those values.